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 November 30, 2011


In The Name of Allah The Almighty

Importance of Communication.

Respected Sir,

Aristotle has said that ďhuman being is a social animalĒ, he means human canít live without a company of others. He affect, as well as affected by the activities of human beings in the society. When a child born at that time his first affection is with his parents mainly with his mother. His parents become his first friend. After that he is attached with his group of friends to whom he starts to share his opinions and try to share so many things which give him eternal happiness. These group of people are his second friend to him, he never like to hide any thing, he shares his secrets very frankly. Due to having good communication skills they are attached to each other. Friendship becomes the name of sacrifice and compromise for every individual being. Mostly it happens that friends due to misunderstanding each other starts, miscommunication which creates a great chaos among the friends and the relations are broken down and friendship ends due to not compromising in very minor thing.

This also becomes the same situations in families where a minor blunder or mistake becomes really a great hurdle in relations. In such a situation the educated and the well disciplined person knows how to handle the situation without blaming and criticizing the opposing group. Due to miscommunication so many type of conflicts arises in our society and this is not a problem of a single person but it is becoming problem of the whole nation. So now we have time to communicate with each other before itís too late. The solution to every problem is only communication and negotiation.

We used to think first he will start than I will reply. Sometime we think our ego and self respect is more important. In such situation donít think about ego and self respect but be the first to take the initiative before it became too late. Try to be a good listener rather than be a good speaker in such situation. Try your best to understand others rather to make him understand about your intentions. Listen carefully to the opposing person conception about you and reply very relevantly rather blaming him wrong. Try your best not to criticize the person. Always give a big smile while talking to him. Smile always freezes your fierceness.

We have to change our attitude and we try our best to bring change in ourselves. Instead of blaming or criticizing, just be curious with yourself and ask a question that, why is this person or situation like that? What and how can I change this person or situation? Try your best to show gratitude and try your best to appreciate others in tough situation. Stop high expectation from your relations. Not matching of expectations bring very negative role in our relations. No expectation can bring a positive change in us.

One solution for the rising condition of elopement can be controlled by the parents by keeping good friendly relations with their children. Parents can share everything and can make them trustworthy. Giving time and including childrenís in decision making can make them responsible citizen. Donít be a dictator but try to be so soft for your children and try your best to explain every situation without blaming them wrong. Give equal rights to children. There should not be gender biased stratification among the children. Give sufficient amount of time to children and make them realize that you love them very much, also make them realize that you canít live without them. Parents can create such a situation where they childrenís come to a conclusion that they are very important for their parents. Children also have some desires which the parents should and try to solve it by positive communication without dishearting their children. It will really create a sense of responsibility among the female counterparts. I think when we will apply this strategies in our life we will be confident enough to handle the cases of elopement.

Your's Faithfully,

Fardad Ali Shah Sanick.
University of Karachi.



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